100 Motherhood Lessons
No mother is as perfect or imperfect as she seems.
The impossibility of perfection in motherhood is easier to acknowledge aloud to an anonymous circle of other mothers online, than it is to acknowledge and truly submit to at a subconscious level or before a “jury” of our real life peers.
Mothers judge each other in order to create “real” standards by which they can then, in turn, use to judge themselves.
The cardinal sin in mommyhood is judging other moms. “Don’t judge, lest you will be judged!”
Selfishness is a “mommy” curse word that should be used sparingly.
Motherhood is not easy…
…but, it (motherhood) is not impossible either.
Motherhood is something that you only “get” when you become a mother.
Showing up late is not the END OF THE WORLD. If someone has a problem, become “that mom” and tell them that “I am a mom. Get over yourself!”
Fanny packs, mom jeans, and minivans serve a purpose for some moms.
Mommy regrets come with the territory of mommyhood. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
As mothers, we should aim to be kind to each other. We should make an effort do things like wave “hi” or smile at each other in public places.
Moms need to be around other moms to remember…
…who they now are
….that they love their children (even when things are going rough)
…that their husbands are not as annoying, rude, insensitive, (fill in the blank) as they may seem
…that some one understands and cares
…that they are doing a good job
….that they are valuable, too
It is not necessary to declare a “major” (attachment parenting, babywise, etc.) in the first year of your child’s life. Do what works for you, and throw out what doesn’t.
The changes in a woman’s life that accompany motherhood are scary but need to be accepted in order for her to grow and truly love, and not be resentful (resentful of her children, husbands, friends, family members, etc.)
Being a “working” mom doesn’t have to mean that a woman has forsaken her children for the sake of her own happiness. Although, a woman’s happiness is important and should not be construed as a selfish prospect, it’s NEVER THAT SIMPLE.
Being a stay at home mom doesn’t have to be about sitting on the couch for much of the day, watching soaps or Lifetime movies, eating hostess Twinkies, and waiting until your spouse gets home. It is, when practiced correctly, a full-time job requiring all of your attention. It involves hard work, and stressful/hectic/challenging, yet rewarding responsibilities.
Mommy snacking should NOT be done during nap times.
Most parents take their parenting choices very seriously because they have anxiety about how they were parented.
They are critical of others’ differing parenting choices because they are, in some fashion, insecure with their own.
Naptimes are godsends that should be used wisely.
Sleep deprivation is dangerous, leading, in some cases, to insanity, a lack of patience, and unhappiness.
Co-sleeping is practiced in private by more parents than you would think.
Co-sleeping, in and of itself, does not inhibit “relations,” mommies can, however, and often do.
Breastfeeding can accelerate post-pregnancy weight loss along with exercise and diet.
Thumb sucking is kind of cute.
Babies can communicate in many other ways outside of their cries. If you don’t believe me, you are not really listening to your baby.
Paper bags, baby wipes, remote controls, cell phones, plastic spoons, phone cords, and even some old string are more entertaining to a baby than play gyms, rattles, or jolly jumpers.
Children are only expensive as you make them.
Target is a dangerous place to be on weekdays.
Breastfeeding can heal of multitude of sins, tears, and boo-boos.
The transition into introducing solids is not always easy.
While cleanliness is important, sanitizing everything to death gets old. quickly.
Knowing a thing or two about photography before your child is born will only be a good thing.
Waking up at four in the morning for your own crying baby is not always as hard as it seems.
If you return to work, only a few at your job will really care and be considerate of the fact that you are a mom.
The sooner you realize that few will care, the better off you will be.Trust me.
Baby carriers, wraps, and slings are a mom’s best friend.
The color of your baby’s poop is not something to cry over. Trust me.
Always, always, always put a new diaper under the old one when changing your child’s diaper. Our children and their bowels are always full of surprises!
Post-baby, there is no such thing as a “quick run” to the store. All movements are coordinated, long, and very planned.
To prevent calls into CPS or APS, trim and file your newborn’s nail’s often.
You can’t put a baby on a schedule. Your baby will create his/her desired schedule in due time. All you really can do is go with the flow.
Comfort nursing will end before you know it. Cherish the time while you can.
Do whatever you have to do to make your baby HAPPY. No need to worry about spoiling him/her at this point. Babies need to be comforted and NEED your attention, support, and love to grow.
Husbands, in the first few months of a child’s life, can be seem annoying, irritating, and difficult.
In spite of this, in their roles as fathers, they should be allowed to parent on their own terms.
Most babies enter in this world looking creepy (i.e., wrinkled and cracked skin, hairy, pale, bald).
They will, however, and for better or worse “come into their own” by three months.
Purchasing baby shirts and onesie that call attention to the mom or dad is not a bad thing.
Making the decision between work v. home is not as easy as it seems.
Bath and story times are opportune occasions for daddy to “get involved.”
As a stay at home mom, you may have more free time than you will care to admit to your husband and “working” mommy peers.
As a stay at home mom, you may have less time than I cared to admit to yourself.
A baby falling from an elevated surface is not indicative of poor parenting.
There is nothing wrong with having “mama hen” tendencies sometimes.
Sometimes, however, being too much of a “mama hen” can prove emotionally and physically draining.
Nothing compares to the love that a mother should have for her child.
Fully stocked diaper bags should remain in the car.
Cloth diapers are not as scary as they seem.
The question of whether or not to send one’s children to daycare is not really a question for some.
Motherhood forces you to realize what matters most. What matters most are the simple things like showering, sleeping, waking up each morning, breathing, loving, eating, praying.
Mommies can be pulled over by annoying, insensitive police officers for a (not two) defective brake light.
Children and spouses can equally be loved and given attention.
Homemade baby food can be fun to make, but it also requires some time commitment (both in its preparation and clean up) that some may really not have
Feeding your baby baby-food from a jar is not as tragic as it may seem.
Breastfeeding is not easy in the beginning, but it is so worth it to continue.
Unless you like the look of milk stains, black should be worn sparingly in the first few months of your child’s life.
Facebook should not be used as a means to parent a child.
Low standing bookshelves and babies do not mix.
Children grow up too fast.
Baby Bjorns become painful if worn for more than two hours and when a child weighs more than 14 pounds.
When your child is in pain, you feel it twice as much.
When you and your husband can sit down together, hold hands, and/or eat dinner, cherish those moments!
Whatever your baby eats (i.e. your hair, paper, etc.) will come out in their poop.
As with all things, having a good sense of humor about motherhood will make things go a lot easier.
A child crying in your favorite “date spot” is not indicative of poor discipline on their parents’ parts.
Talking on the phone is a luxury not afforded to most moms.
The parents that you once knew, you know, the ones who cried when their child said their first words, were not being overly dramatic and/or pathetic.
White carpet should be replaced with a darker shade when you are expecting a child.
When it comes to motherhood, common sense is not always common.
Modesty (closed door showers and bathroom sessions) goes out the window with motherhood.
A mother’s best guide, when it comes to being a successful parent, is trusting her intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, sound right, or look right, don’t do it!
In order to stay (or become) sane and keep (or make) yourself happy, you must learn, very early on, how to choose your battles.
While your needs and wants are important, in becoming a mom, you must surrender to the idea that only your wants and needs matter.
Our children are our truest mirrors.
If we something in them that will dislike, if we look inside, we will see it in ourselves.
Children force us to embrace the present moment. The past is dead and the future may never come. All we have is right now.
As seen through a child’s eyes, there is much to love, be appreciative of, and happy about in our universes.
As adults, we build up walls that prevent us from seeing that beauty within our universes because, in “growing up,” we become too focused on our responsibilities, failures, and possible successes.
Not everything on daytime television is appropriate to watch in the presence of a child.
Car seats are heavy to carry around.
Being pooped and/or peed on by a baby is nothing to stress about.
No matter how difficult it is to raise your child, you cannot imagine life without them.
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