How to Make Your Husband Love You More (Part 2)

I get a lot of traffic to this blog from a humorous post I wrote awhile back called, “How to Make Your Husband Love You More.”

Before you click on it, let me first say this, you know how you write something funny, but the title’s “how to” would suggest that it’s serious. But it’s really not serious, but people may think it is (or will be) if they don’t know you or read your blog and hate you, subsequently, for fooling them into clicking a link they were interested in for something other than a laugh?

Yeah.

That’s that post.

It’s a sarcastic, funny post naming 10 things that you really should not do to make your husband love you more.

Number one on the list? Compare him to your friend’s husband or, better yet, to husbands of your favorite movie stars. In case you’re wondering, that’s a joke. All 10 on that list are a joke.

How can you make your husband more? Really?

I don’t think you can make someone love you more. I mean, can you make yourself love someone more if you don’t already? I don’t think I could, and that’s why that post was a joke.

Seriously, you can’t make love happen in a marriage if it’s not already happening. You can do things to nurture yourself, your marriage, and do other things in the name of love, but if it (or love) is not there, then you can’t make it be there, you know? Or, at least that’s what I think after six years of marriage.

The thing that I think is really downplayed when you’re pregnant with your first child is just how much your marriage can change when you have a child. It’s downplayed that you will change, that your spouse will change, and that in your changing something happens in your marriage.

Marriages change after children, at least mine did.

Our love is different now, more grounded now, because, I think, children have given us a more beautiful lens from which to see our ourselves and our relationship with each other.

We love each other more now because we’ve braved parenting together. We are decidedly getting through it together. We want to make our marriage work, so we’re making it work.

That’s all. I’m off my soapbox. And for anyone here from Google, I can be genuinely funny sometimes. Really.

What do you think. Can you make your spouse love you more?

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In case your wondering, today was a Clicking Series day, but due to a failing memory card that didn’t happen. Boo! I know. I know. But do check back tomorrow where I’ll be naming 11 habits of awesome photographers! Here’s one of the pictures from the post that did manage to make it on to my computer.

 Yeah. She’s covered in food, but so darn cute! So, will I see you tomorrow? Hmm? (blink blink) I really hope so!:-)

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12 Responses to “How to Make Your Husband Love You More (Part 2)”

  1. Jessica says:

    Jessica, she is freakin adorable! Also? I laughed out loud at your previous post. We definitely have the same sense of humor!

  2. Alison says:

    I agree – marriage changes with the arrival of children. Now, you’re working at it for reasons other than you don’t want to be alone etc. Now you have small people you choose to bring into the world. Small people who love us and need us together.

    • Jessica says:

      Oh, I agree! And it’s wonderful in that way. It’s wonderful how much substance and meaning our children can bring to our lives and our perspectives on our marital unions.

  3. jen says:

    i love that post. so hilarious! And yes I’ll be back for more tomorrow!

  4. Love evolves with the passage of time. Both the happy and tough experiences make your love and marriage stronger. Change makes the marriage grow.
    You’re right, you can’t possibly make anyone love you any more than he already does. Love is either present or absent.

    • Jessica says:

      Yes! I hope when traffic comes to my blog on those search terms that they’ll read your comment, because you’re exactly right! I love the way you expressed that!

  5. Oh yeah, marriage DEFINITELY changes after kids come along…I had no idea how much it would change.
    Love the picture…she’s gorgeous :)

    • Jessica says:

      Thank you!! Yes, marriages do change. I had no idea either, but I think we’re better now then we were then. We have less time for each other now, but our relationship seems more solid now. It has more of a purpose, you know?

  6. But…but…but HOW CAN I MAKE MY HUSBAND LOVE ME MORE??? You didn’t tell me that!