I think I’ve waited two days to write anything about Listen to Your Mother DC 2014 because I’ve been waiting for the moment when I had something more substantial to say beyond, “It was amazing.”
To be clear, it was amazing. The show was amazing. My fellow cast of amazing women were, well, amazing. Our outfits were amazing. The audience was amazing. That we walked in and out of the theater to Pharrell William’s “Happy” was amazing. Our photographer was amazing. Backstage was amazing. The lighting, the podium, the sound check people were, amazing. The weather was amazing. My hair… was amazing.
It. was. amazing.
I’m so happy I auditioned and was selected and overcame my unreasonable fear of speaking in front of an audience. But more than being amazing, I’m thankful. I learned a lot from my Listen to Your Mother experience. I learned about myself, yes, obviously, and the other women in the show, yes, but I feel like I’m walking away knowing more about motherhood and about what it means to be a mother and adult.
I don’t say this often on this blog, but you do know that I’m a stay at home mom, right? I feel like I need to ask this because often upon meeting me in person, new people, who’ve read my blog, are always unsure of this. So they will ask, “So what do you do?” And in my head, I’m like, “well, you did read my blog, right?” But then, I guess, in reading my blog myself, or reading it as if I’m new to myself, I can totally get how this happens. I do freelance writing at times, social media work at times, and other things, but I also have three kids under the age of five who I care for all day long. That and keeping my house from falling into decrepitude is my job, so anything else happens, hopefully around that or, sometimes, between that.
I am a stay at home mom first, though, it’s not included, often, first, in my line of byline credits. Perhaps this, or my often ambiguity in defining myself primarily by what I do has to do with something in my subconscious or maybe it’s because I think of myself in ways that aren’t just limited to my biggest job.
So I was thinking about this when I got home from Listen To Your Mother, when I got home from the high that was Listen to Your Mother. As laundry and the floors awaited me, as I walked in the door to my full time job, I was reminded of this and a book my mother used to read to me called, “Mrs. Hen Goes to Market.”
That book is about a hen who is also presumably a mother/housewife. It’s for children, which is why my mom read it to me and my siblings, But now that I’m older with the “vintage” copy from my youth, I get that it’s really one of those books intended more to soothe the souls of the reading parent, if you know what I mean…
But anyway, about the book. She, or the hen, in the beginning of the book, complains about her life, how everyday it’s the same thing. Everyday she cleans and walks to the market and does all the other things that, well, housewife hens do.
So one day, after feeling so depressed about her existence she decides to do something different. She decides to fly to the market instead of walk. And she has so much fun flying to the market that she decides, in the end, to do it everyday. Her life as a housewife hen doesn’t change. She still must do the laundry and clean the floors every day of her life, but now in flying to the market, all that’s okay. She’s happier now, or she finds happiness in being able to fly to the market. It’s a great story, right? I mean it’s not so great for the children it’s intended for. But it’s really good, brilliant even, for borderline depressed and jaded adults who are those children’s parents. Ahem.
So I was reminded of this story when I got home from reeling from a high of performing in Listen to Your Mother. I am a stay at home mom, but I like to fly. This is why I do things alongside my motherhood pursuits, I think. This is why I write and why I run races and take pretty pictures and draw things. And this is why I decided to stand on a stage in front of many on this past Sunday. It’s the highs that I get from these experiences that make my ordinary life feel so much easier and enjoyable and, dare I say, happier? Yes, happier. And while it’s mothering that takes up much of my days, I think this message or the message of the book can work for most adults. Whether you’re an accountant or bus driver, you still must fly to make that work more meaningful.
So I guess this, 800 words later, is my more substantial thing I wanted to say about Listen To Your Mother DC 2014. But at the core, I’m still stuck on the basic fact that this past Sunday was amazing. And that’s all.
Have you ever been to a Listen To Your Mother show? If not, please put it on your bucket list! It’s really like an experience that everyone should have. No, seriously, you should.
What have you done to “fly” lately?