I had originally planned to write a really long bio here, but then I ditched that idea when I put myself in your shoes and realized that you probably don’t want to hear about where I was born and how I hated my hair in college. You want the basics, right? Or, you want the gist of who I am to know who I am to make more sense of the person who comes out in my writings, right?
Okay. So, my real name is Jessica.
I am a writer who rediscovered her passion for writing, like for real writing, in becoming a mother to my first daughter in 2010 and second daughter in 2011.
I think there is a bottom that I reached in motherhood. Or, it wasn’t necessary a bottom for all, but it was my bottom because before motherhood I had a huge ego that was so fluffy and soft that I never really had to look down there and see or think about the floor which held my weight.
I was, for much of my twenties, arrogant but also very insecure and afraid.
I was afraid of that hard floor so I did things to stay away from it at all costs. I went to graduate school. I had a “great” resume. I did everything “right.”
But in 2010, I was on the floor, crying and afraid, faced with the stark reality that in becoming a mother, I became removed from the clouds of ego, and thoughts of the person I had to become by 30, the person with bags of money, a career, a novel published, fame, accolades, etc…to be someone wonderful, interesting, worthy.
At 29, without any of these things, I should be a failure. But…I’m not a failure.
Part of getting older and being humbled by children has been learning that failure is a good thing because in failing at the things you thought you needed to define you, you grow stronger and your sense of purpose becomes more clear.
My purpose is more nebulous than what I thought it would be, but it includes my husband, my children, writing, inspiring, and loving being a woman who gets this now rather than later.
So, this is me at the core, but superficially, you should also know these things:
I like horribly trashy reality TV, crime shows, and clean bathrooms (really clean bathrooms).
I am unemployed (technically), but I alternate between entering “homemaker” and “human raiser” when filling out my taxes.
I am a senior editor at Baby Gizmo.
I contribute to Huffington Post.
I like baked goods.
I am really into politics and reading novels.
For answers to any other questions you may have about me, please do contact me. I’m really nice online and in real life. I know some people say this because it’s the lingo of new online relationships, but really. I’m really a nice person. I attribute this to how I was raised and good genetics.