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writer friends, i need your help

Friday, July 20th, 2012

So, remember that novel that I’ve been talking about on this blog for the longest time? In case you don’t. I started it about four years ago and kind of left it when my life got more hectic. I’ve wanted to return to it, but I never have out of fear of not liking anything about it.

Well, last night I returned to it. And I liked it…kind of. I feel like I’ve changed a bit as a writer. I like a lot about the story and about the characters I’ve constructed, but there’s so much I want to change. I have over 30,000 words so far and haven’t even gotten into the crux of the story. So I think they’re be a lot more words once this thing is all done.

So, my question to you all, writer friends is how do you determine where to go with an old writing project that you kind of are in love with? Would you continue to write and see where it gets you? Or would you make changes to what you have and then continue writing? I am so excited about this novel, but I don’t know where to go, so any help would be wonderful!

you are a writer

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012

What’s the step to becoming a great writer? Well, the first step is taking yourself seriously as a writer. You must call yourself a writer and believe that you are doing this, or writing, every time you sit down to write.

I was always reluctant to call myself a writer. I feared that I wasn’t ready yet for such a noble title. I feared that in calling myself a writer, others would judge me and think, “Hey! She sucks at this!” And then I’d cry and feel defeated and give up on my passion. I feared that would break me.

So, I always said I was “aspiring” to be a writer. I always talked about writing as if it were some far off dream that was elusive, dreamy, and possible unreal for me.

But, I’ve learned that so long as I wait on the right moment, the right affirmation, the right feeling to do the thing I really want to do with the rest of my life, I’ll get no where.

So, about a year ago, I stopped. I stopped not trying to call what I was doing writing. I started calling myself a writer. I put that, or writer, in my professional bios. I talked about me being a writer to others. I looked in the mirror and saw a writer. Well, not really. Or, I didn’t really look in the mirror and say that, but I could have and would have done that. I think.

So, today, if you are writing and want to be a writer, I encourage you to say, “I am a writer.” Keep saying it and soon you’ll believe it. I promise.


No question today. But, if you’re in America, Happy Fourth of July to you!

be the person you want to become

Monday, June 25th, 2012

It sounds profound, doesn’t it? But, it’s very, very true. I learned this later in life. I learned that the person who was standing in the way of me becoming the person I thought I should one day become was none other than me. I learned that the hardest part of getting to be the person I wanted to become was getting out of my own way and just…becoming.

Life is simple, really. But it seems hard because we are complex creatures. We are creatures who are fearful, regretful, competitive, and anxious. We can be emotional and can forget our true goals and become something and someone else.

But life is easy when you let go of all of that and just be…the person you’ve always wanted to be. Life is easy if you don’t live by fear or allow your fears to become your life.

The person I always wanted  to become? She writes. She’s confident. She wakes in the morning and runs. She is present. She loves her life. I believe I am that person I wanted to become and I tell myself I am that person, and you know what? I really am that person.


Who do you want to become? What’s standing in your way of becoming that person of your dreams?

5 minutes of writing a day

Sunday, May 20th, 2012

I am sometimes asked what, if any, lessons this 5 minute blog has taught me. And in response to this, I usually say something along the lines of, “Oh, it’s made me more trusting of my writing, more confident as a writer, and less afraid to just write.” And these things are true.

Writing here has been a nice journey. It’s shown me that I can write, that what holds me back from writing is my fear of what others may think of my writing. The editing process is long, at times, and scary. To make mistakes in front of others, to see your mistakes and then wonder who else has seen your mistakes– it’s hard.

But, it’s necessary. It’s necessary to make mistakes. It’s necessary to learn, to be humbled. It’s necessary to just    keep   writing.

I think I’ve suffered from many writer’s blocks on account of my unwillingness to just write. Sometimes, I take things too seriously or not seriously enough.

Sometimes, I get too concerned with the particulars, and perceptions, and my best ideas, that I forget about everything else.

My short little bits are random, but some of them are good.

And I’m proud of that.


How do you stay fresh as a writer? Do you write everyday?

how do you handle rejection as a writer?

Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

I think rejection is par for the course of being a writer. As a writer, some will love what you write. They’ll love it so much that they’ll praise you, pay you, recommend you. But, sometimes, sometimes, people will not love what you write.


Rejection is par the course of being a writer. To be a writer, to put yourself out there, you must be able to handle rejection. You must remember that when one of your pieces is rejected, it’s not because of you, it’s because of what you’ve written. There’s a difference.

A big difference.

I used to never think I’d be able to handle any negative feedback on my writing. I used to never read my teacher’s critiques of my writings until two years after receiving those critiques. Then, I did it because I feared that it, or the critiques, could “break” me, break my spirit as a writer, change my voice.

And it did do those things, at times.

But now, now that I’ve grown and matured, I’ve learned not to cry or take personally when others don’t like what I’ve written. I listen to critiques and plan to do better, work harder, plan more for next time.

That’s all.


How do you deal with negative feedback on your writings? How do you handle rejections?